Un-Motherf*cking! Believable! (Blows) . . . Entry for March 7, 2007

Wow, you’re really not gonna believe this one! ! I think anyone that’s been a long time reader knows how I feel about censorship, the 1^st amendment and the freedoms we Americans are given there. But there’s been a lot of flack from the media about the local swingers group and during one of the chat sessions with the swingers in that group, the "host" pulled me aside into an IM and had this to say to me:

thesexytech: yes sweety?

group host : ok about that...lol...i forgot til u mentioned it

group host :have to go to serious mode now...yuckk

thesexytech

: ok hun

group host: the blogs...auntie emm

group host: u know ***** was trashed and didnt mean to piss u off right?

thesexytech: this isn't the first time she's done something like that, but there is more than one EM" that goes there

thesexytech: I didn't really trash her

thesexytech: I stated facts

thesexytech: I don't know why she has never liked me

thesexytech: I'm friendly with everyone

thesexytech: I've never done a thing to her

thesexytech: and tell her hi and everything

group host : i know u like to post and is like your diary which is fine....but specific details which pertain to us....hits home cause they all writre me about it

thesexytech: but if it was just me, I would have let it go, but she did it to F, and that just wasn't right

thesexytech: I said I was in Indiana

group host: but if u look..F is laid back and blows shit off easily though

group host: lol doenst matter to those who know better...the ones who go

thesexytech: yes, but he shouldn't have to, it was disrespectful of her to him

group host : u know there are alot of ppl that have no life out there readin your blog

group host: we like to lol

group host: your one sick bitch and have great stories lkmao

thesexytech : I know, and I try to keep it anon

thesexytech: and you are right, of course, about the aunty em thing

thesexytech: does she want an appology?

group host : ok can i ask u one thing....and i know it is slightly degrading but would u plz do it anyway

thesexytech: what's that?

group host : its not her that wants it actually its the ppl that wrote about it to me

group host: saying they think that an apology in the blog would be agood idea....not a groveling one

group host: just a....ok so maybe we all blew it out of proportion one ....

group host: that make sense?

group host: something like ...ok we were all drunk and things got carired away and now that we all look back on it it was nothin

thesexytech: I will leave a note in my comments, it was not meant to really hurt anyone, I'm, not that type of person

group host:i dont know

group host : ty techy i really do appreciate it

group host : i want everyone to come have fun

group host: and not to dread seing each other

thesexytech: and it's not degrading, if I did hurt her feelings, I will apologize

group host: and yeah eevryone gonna have cliques

group host: ty really

We chatted a little more then yahoo booted me again, so I closed it. Not wanting to jeopardize my relationship with the group owners, I immediately went to my blog page comments section and wrote a sincere apology here (http://360.yahoo.com/profile-JG2pN3o9cqoh.Uh6uDYanIKNGw--?cq=1). I received a shock via email Sunday morning from the group host and this was her response to my blog apology that she requested I write:

: ----- Original Message ----
From: group host
To: thesexy.tech

Sent: Sunday, March 4, 2007 7:55:06 AM
Subject: meet and greets

hello techy writing to tell u we have had comments about your blog this morning....complaints of it being sarcastist and not an actual apology since u said u were stating facts....i really thought that there would be an apology in some sort like this....

i would like to aplogize for what i had written about a fellow party goer....we were both drinkin and i think we may have just had a misunderstanding and neither of us meant to piss each other off....its just a party with a bunch of friends and her moving the balls was just something that was done tryin to be silly....and i got upset

this isnt the first time we have had a complaint about the comments in the blogs....in fact we have someone not happy now with the post about the article in the news....our group....and that happens to be me....

we dont need anymore negative attention right now...and should all be pulling together to get through this....there are alot of worried ppl including myslef....that just want a place to hang out and have fun with friends...and this town is trying to take that away from us....u r feeding into this by displaying it for the public....

since u feel u need to tell what u do and what we do in our private life....then we feel it is best that we dont allow u the opportunity to involve any of our members(friends) lives in it....unless they choose to see u on their time and not the meets time....so as of now u will no longer be able to attend the meets or be involved in the group activities....group host

And this was my reply to her email:

Group host,

I was in no way sarcastic in my apology, and was sorry her feelings were hurt and said so very plainly here in my comments section:

I'd like to make a comment critiquing my own blog post. Someone's feelings were hurt from something I wrote, and for that I'm sorry. I have never meant to ever intentionally hurt ANYONE's feelings, and that is the truth. All I do is report facts as I see them (at that moment in time), and of course, there are always 3 sides to every story as I've said before. So sweety, I'm sorry you were upset, and I really mean that.
Kisses!
Tst

How can you construe that to be sarcastic? Unless the person we've been discussing has it in for me and just wants me out, I don't understand. By that "moment in time" statement, I was referring to both of us being drunk, but didn't want to her to be further upset by me saying she was drunk. I said there are 3 sides to every story in my postings before.1) yourself 2) the other person and 3) what really happened, and it's true. In simpler words, you may have been wrong, they may have been wrong and both of them could have been wrong as well. That's true for every situation.

Just because someone thinks I'm being sarcastic, doesn't mean that I am. I call people sweety and end posts and messages with the Kisses and tst (the sexy tech) as my "signature" all the time. I AM sorry she got upset and said so, very plainly I thought.

I am in no way self-centered or egotistical enough to have what she did playing with the pool balls even effect me, but she disrespected F and out of all 3 men that have my utmost respect out there, next to Yours and Sin's husbands, he's 3rd in line. If you feel my standing up for him was wrong, then that is my fate.

My apology was very sincere, but I'm not sure even how her feelings were hurt or how she could say I'm just being sarcastic by posting my comment. I am a very loving and caring person, and I hold no grudges against anyone. I'm never jealous or envious of anyone, I'm happy with who I am, with all my faults and failures. I don't think I'm anyone special, I'm not narcissistic, and I don't start any trouble, or so I thought.

The group has been like a second family to me, I've made and want to keep going there. Please don't cut me out. If you want, (Please) just let me come one more time and I'll apologize to her face, so she would know I am truly sorry she was upset. Then if you still want me to go, fine, but at least let me get a chance to say goodbye to the people I've gotten to know and love for the last 6 months.

Thank you for letting me have my say, I await your reply.

Techy

That was Sunday afternoon and I’m still waiting to hear from them . . . I guess their silence is all the answer I need . . .

And a new blog begins . . .Entry for March 3, 2007

OK, after my "lengthy" hiatus (that’s long vacation, lol) from blogging, I’m back with more Good times and Bad times, and everything in between. I’ve started editing my old blogs, so that is going to be keeping me pretty busy. BTW - if any of my friends out there knows of a decent publisher can you send her or him my way? My email is thesexy,tech@yahoo.com Thanks!!

Well, what’s new with me? I’m glad you asked! I have a new roommate for a bit, I’ve written about her before, it’s my friend’s cousin that goes to the "Meet and Greet" parties with us, her name is "L". Oh, and another BTW, one of the "Lifestyle" groups I’m familiar with made front-page news out here in Kentucky.

The article was did a pretty decent job, stating that the patrons don’t bother anyone in the neighborhood. They also said that the building in "Friendly Village" (a fitting name, for it’s location, lol) was still referred to as "The Bait Shop", which is what it used to be.

I told my new roomy that they should keep "The Bait Shop" name. Cause I mean for real, everyone that goes to a "Lifestyle" party there is really fishing for something or other, right? lmao! Anyways, here’s the story, copyright The Messenger-Inquirer, 2007

03/01/07 Sex club a curiosity for neighbors Friendly Village building hosts 'Meet and Greet' By Joanie Baker and Leigh Ann Tipton - Messenger-Inquirer

While the locals still call it "the bait shop," the Friendly Village building on Kentucky 81 is referred to by others as a swinger's club or wife swap. A sign that reads "Owensboro Meet and Greet Private Club" now hangs on the tinted-window door that used to swing open for fishermen. According to law enforcement officers who've talked to the party's "hosts," the white building houses a monthly gathering of individuals who select other willing partners to fulfill sexual fantasies that are completely legal.

As rumors floated around the community of a spanking room and sex swing, local resident Ricky Gaddis said he decided about a year ago to see for himself what the "Meet and Greet" was all about. Gaddis said he paid $10 to get in, left his name at the front door and was told "if he didn't cause any trouble, there wouldn't be any trouble." "People kept asking what's going on over there, so I said 'I'll go find out,' " Gaddis said, adding that he went a year ago and doesn't know what goes on there now. "I didn't see no sex ...," but he did see some women baring their breasts.

Gaddis said he only saw one other local person inside the facility and believes that most of the others who gather there on a fairly regular basis must be wealthy people from out of town, judging by their vehicles. Jeff Jones, a captain with the Daviess County Sheriff's Department, said rumors were brought to the department's attention about six to nine months ago about a possible sex club in Friendly Village.

While no formal complaints have been filed with the department, Jones said the "hosts" of the party met with him and said adults come to the "Meet and Greet" to meet others from surrounding states before opting to go somewhere else on a consensual basis to do as they choose. Jones said the information the department received did not seem indicative of criminal activity.

Jim Mischel, an associate director for building and electrical at the Owensboro Metropolitan Planning Commission, said the lot is zoned B4, commercial, "which means a private club would be a permitted use." A county ordinance places some restriction on adult entertainment, but Mischel said the term "adult entertainment" is not clearly defined. "It would be up to the city or county to decide if it's adult entertainment or not," he said. "If they determine it to be, there are restrictions. "

The property is owned by William Whittaker, and a building permit was issued to Michael Whittaker for the installation of a mobile home adjacent to the facility. A man who answered the door at the mobile home Wednesday said, "I know who owns the club, and I do not want to do a story."

Anna Durbin lives just a couple of doors down from the club. She said she has watched women dressed in lingerie and others dressed "really nice" file into the building on Saturday nights. "You don't ever hear them or see them (after they go in)," she said. "I can't complain as far as the noise and trouble." Durbin said the parking lot is filled every time the group meets, and said they've been told there is food and that members get a special rate at a local hotel.

While many locals sit at the Roam Inn next to the "Meet and Greet" and joke about what goes on behind closed doors, Ashton Revlett said she thinks it's funny that no one really knows for sure. "Everybody knows everybody here, but hardly anybody knows anything about that place," she said. "... If you watch, it's the same cars every time. I never thought it would be here in town, (I) thought it would be in Vegas or somewhere, but not here." A search of three Web sites that cater to the swinging lifestyle resulted in ads from dozens of Owensboro couples looking for other individuals and couples to join them.

According to a 2000 paper in the Electronic Journal of Human Sexuality, 15 percent of couples in the U.S. have, at some point, incorporated swinging into their marriage. The International Lifestyle Association estimates there are upwards of 10 million adults worldwide practicing some form of swinging. A Yahoo group called "OBoro Meet and Greet Rednecks" says members must at least receive notice in the mail pertaining to the "Meet and Greet" and must be at least 21 years old. It also says the club does not discriminate.

A Web site for Club 201 in Evansville said its patrons range in age from their 20s to 50s but that the average club member is in their 30s or 40s. It also says its members are in good relationships and are looking for "a shared experience that appeals to their needs and fantasies and their desire to explore them together rather than apart."

Billy Keiser of Friendly Village said he and his friends joke about going to the "Meet and Greet" and have heard different stories from others who have been. He said he understands that members pay a fee to belong to the private club. "Some people really ought to go and take care of their curiosity at least," he said. " ... We've had more fun at that place's expense."
After spending about six hours in the old bait shop to become the "local expert" on the "Meet and Greet," Gaddis said he has no intention of going back. "Everybody does it in their own house and can invite anyone they want to come over," Gaddis said. "They just do it there." "As long as they don't bother me," Durbin said, "to each his own."

Wasn’t that great? I think it’s about time the illusion that the "swinging" lifestyle is wrong and what people involved in it are being sinful. There should be more appreciation that the mutually consenting couples (and singles) involved in this type of lifestyle often have more trust in each other, and it may even strengthen relationships in some cases.

If nothing else, it gives a little spice to monogamous relationships that want to add a little (consensual) fantasy to their lives . . .